23February2010
Posted by Moss under: Business.
You are not that smart, insightful, or intuitive! You don’t always understand with accuracy what’s going on with other people. You may think you do but you may only be assuming or making up a false interpretation.
When trying to understand your partner’s behavior and thinking, its important to do something other than to guess. You need to observe and ask. Notice if you are feeling annoyed or judgmental. What assumptions are you making? When you don’t really know the facts, don’t make up a story and assume the worst. Take a moment and check tings out with your partner. Read the rest of this entry »
18February2010
Posted by Moss under: communication.
Do you remember the story of Goldilocks and the three Bears? Something was either too hard to too soft, too hot or too cold, or too big or too small.
Partners can get caught up in this either/or stage particularly when they talk too much or listen too little. Many meetings are characterized by a lot of talking, advocating, or challenging and little listening, healthy challenging, and checking things out. The result: no agreement, frustration, and lack of clear direction. Skillful discussion is a discussion method that helps partners reach a shared understanding, make a decision, reach agreements, and set goals. Read the rest of this entry »
16February2010
Posted by Moss under: Working Successfully with Others.
Recognize that fear is normal. Recognize that fear will not disappear from your life. Fear takes on many stages: fear of failure, rejection, losing a loved one, not having enough money, losing power, etc.
A powerful strategy to manage fear is to create a clear vision, personal commitment, and action plan. Action taking is a great antidote to fear. Do you and your partner share a vision? Have your committed to always do your best to support this vision? Are you taking daily actions to succeed?
Lets say you fear about a difference of opinion you partner has with you. When you experience fear, pause and ask yourself, “What am I afraid of? Am I worried he will be angry, put me down or reject me? Am I taking this too personally?” Read the rest of this entry »
