25February2010
Posted by Moss under: communication.
There is an expression, “There’s no I in the word team.” Do you think the same is true for partnerships, “There’s no I in partner?”
Practically speaking, there is always an “I” present. Every person has self-interest to protect. Teams or partnerships are no guarantee that a person’s safety, security, or success will be protected. To an extent, each person has to take responsibility for his/her welfare.
Each person also has to keep an eye out for partnership breakdowns to make sure he will speak up when things are not working out. That being said, a partnership based on trust, integrity, resiliency, competence, giving or taking feedback, and mutual caring can go a long way to bringing about mutual success. Read the rest of this entry »
23February2010
Posted by Moss under: Business.
You are not that smart, insightful, or intuitive! You don’t always understand with accuracy what’s going on with other people. You may think you do but you may only be assuming or making up a false interpretation.
When trying to understand your partner’s behavior and thinking, its important to do something other than to guess. You need to observe and ask. Notice if you are feeling annoyed or judgmental. What assumptions are you making? When you don’t really know the facts, don’t make up a story and assume the worst. Take a moment and check tings out with your partner. Read the rest of this entry »
18February2010
Posted by Moss under: communication.
Do you remember the story of Goldilocks and the three Bears? Something was either too hard to too soft, too hot or too cold, or too big or too small.
Partners can get caught up in this either/or stage particularly when they talk too much or listen too little. Many meetings are characterized by a lot of talking, advocating, or challenging and little listening, healthy challenging, and checking things out. The result: no agreement, frustration, and lack of clear direction. Skillful discussion is a discussion method that helps partners reach a shared understanding, make a decision, reach agreements, and set goals. Read the rest of this entry »
